Q. I’m a busy working parent and every year, I vow that I will not be drawn into volunteering at my children’s school, as I end up doing everything and feeling resentful. I go in to class meetings intending to be strong, but no one else raises their hand to cover books, do canteen, be class parent rep (so excruciating) … so I agree to it all! How do I stop being “guilted” into helping out?
A. My darling Conscientious Parent, a huge gold star for you! Isn’t it irritating how many parents won’t help out? They’re often the very same types who whinge about the poor quality of sausage sandwich at the Father’s Day barbecue.
Thank goodness for kind souls like you. But don’t misinterpret my praise as a tactic to get you to volunteer again. Enough is enough.
Sit on your hands at the next meeting; or, if that’s too hard, don’t go to the meeting. Time for someone else to man (or woman) the Mother’s Day stall. Unfortunately, guilt is an occupational hazard when it comes to being a mum. Everything you do is already enough.
Q. I recently connected with an ex and while there is still definitely chemistry there with him, I am nervous to explore any romantic avenues for fear of getting my heart broken. What is an emotional and oft-overthinking young homosexual to do?
A. Romeo, are you looking for love, or just a good time? I have an inkling that you have already had your heart broken by this man. Obviously it’s tempting to fall down the rabbit hole again, swearing to yourself that it will be different this time.
But what will be different? Has he discovered the error of his ways and realised that you are the man for him? That is a unicorn scenario, of course. I want that for you, I really, really want you to be with someone who goes gently with your heart and soul. But has the leopard changed his spots? Have you? Here’s the crunch: unless you both have the same intentions, it will end in tears again. If you want to throw your heart to the wind, go for it, have fun.
But never forget that you deserve more than that, my sweet.
These answers are simply my views, and I am far from perfect. I struggle through some days better than others with the help of my family, cats, chocolate and antidepressants.
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