He slept around before me and his longest relationship was 11 months. I don’t think he has cheated on me but I feel I can’t trust him. I am 45, he is 30 and we have been together for five years.
I know he watches porn and masturbates to it, which feels a bit like cheating.
His friends constantly send him porn pictures.
He insists all this is normal but these friends are going on the stag do and I worry what they might encourage each other to do.
We have regular sex but I get upset when he is not in the mood.
DEIDRE SAYS: Women generally see sex and love as very closely linked, whereas some men see them as separate issues – so your partner doesn’t feel it is cheating.
The basic problem is that he is dismissing your feelings. My e-leaflet on Standing Up For Yourself will help you get him to listen. Tell him you are worried about what he and his friends may get up to on the stag do and you need reassurance.
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