Dressing as a woman has cost me my marriage and reputation

DEAR DEIDRE: I CAN’T stop dressing as a woman – and it has cost me my marriage and reputation.

I’m a 47-year-old man with an alter ego I call Lesley. She’s blonde and curvy and I feel so confident and comfortable when I’m done up as her.

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I’ve been cross-dressing since my twenties and now have far more women’s clothes than men’s.

My wife left me several years ago because she caught me trying on her dresses and wearing her make-up. She didn’t understand.

None of my neighbours will talk to me because they’ve seen me as Lesley, putting out the bins or getting my post.

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I’ve decided to give up on dating women because none of them accept me for who I am. Now I only date men.

This urge to cross-dress feels like a burden. I didn’t ask to be this way.

DEIDRE SAYS: The need to cross-dress is a part of your personality, which you can’t control.

Cross-dressing satisfies your yearning to express your feminine side.

There are some women who will accept a partner’s need to cross-dress, but sadly your wife couldn’t cope with it. It would help you to talk to other men who understand your need to do it and won’t make you feel it’s a burden.

Contact the Beaumont Society for support (beaumontsociety.org.uk, 01582 412 220). My support pack Cross-dressing will help, too.

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