My boyfriend never pays and seems to feel no shame about it

DEAR DEIDRE: I AM sick of paying for everything and feel like I might as well be a single mum.

My boyfriend is 30, I am 31 and we have a three-year-old son.

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We have been together for four years and have a good relationship, apart from this issue.

He contributes towards the rent and bills but I buy all our son’s clothes, food, toys and nappies, and I also pay for childcare.

Whenever we go shopping, my boyfriend will stand by the checkout and watch me pay.

He never offers to contribute, and seems to feel no shame about it.

While I work full-time, he is self- employed and does odd jobs.

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I earn more than him but every penny goes on our son and our living expenses.

It’s my boyfriend’s choice not to get a proper job. I’m so fed up.

DEIDRE SAYS: Parenting should be a shared job. Explain to him how you feel before this pushes you apart.

Ask him to think how he could contribute more. My pack Standing Up For Yourself should help.

Perhaps he does feel embarr­assed underneath. Offer to help him find more or better-paid work.

My support pack Family Finances could also be useful.

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