Mother who suffered two stillbirths and a miscarriage reveals how she kept her next pregnancy a secret until her daughter was BORN – and then announced her arrival on WhatsApp
- Amy and Oliver Everatt, of Nottinghamshire, welcomed daughter Lilia in 2011
- But when trying for their second, they suffered two stillbirths and a miscarriage
- Couple fell pregnant again but kept the news a secret to protect themselves
- When daughter Elfine was born in 2017 they announced her arrival on WhatsApp
A couple who suffered two stillbirths and a miscarriage explained how they kept their next pregnancy secret until their daughter was born.
Amy and Oliver Everatt, of Langford, Nottinghamshire, were so private that even their ‘nearest and dearest’ were only told about daughter Elfine after her arrival in October last year.
The couple, both 33, announced the news on WhatsApp, writing: ‘Elfine Stella Everatt born 25/10/17 weighing 3lb 13oz, mum and baby doing well. We can’t believe she’s here.’
Amy and Oliver Everatt, of Nottinghamshire, suffered two stillbirths and a miscarriage following the birth of their eldest daughter Lilia in 2011. So when they fell pregnant in early 2017 they decided to keep the news a secret until the birth of daughter Elfine in October 2017. Pictured today, Amy and Oliver with Lilia, now seven, and Elfine, who turns one this month
The couple, both 33, announced the news of Elfine’s birth on WhatsApp, writing: ‘Elfine Stella Everatt born 25/10/17 weighing 3lb 13oz, mum and baby doing well. We can’t believe she’s here’. They sent the text, pictured, to their ‘nearest and dearest’ to reveal her arrival
‘We sent a picture to our nearest and dearest, announcing little Elfine’s arrival,’ Amy said. ‘It was a big surprise for everyone, as nobody knew I had been pregnant.’
Amy and Oliver, who met as children, had a straightforward pregnancy with their eldest daughter, Lilia, who was born in 2011.
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When they were ready to try for another child, the couple imagined it would be a similarly easy process.
They fell pregnant in 2013 but were devastated when their daughter, whom they named Meridon, was stillborn at 19 weeks.
Amy and Oliver, who met as children, had a straightforward pregnancy with their eldest daughter, Lilia, who was born in 2011. They expected it would be the same for their second
The couple fell pregnant in 2013 but were devastated when their daughter, whom they named Meridon, was stillborn at 19 weeks. Pictured, Amy while pregnant with Meridon
The couple were dealt another blow when a daughter, whom they named Addie, was stillborn after they were involved in a minor car crash in 2014. Pictured, Amy pregnant with Addie
The couple were dealt another blow when their daughter Addie was stillborn after they were involved in a minor car crash in 2014.
‘I was petrified and had post traumatic stress disorder symptoms afterwards,’ Amy said. ‘We had funerals for both our girls, attended by only me and Oliver,’ she said.
‘It was the most heartbreaking time, as we really wanted a bigger family.’
The couple were once again given hope when they discovered Amy was pregnant shortly before Christmas 2015. But Mrs Everatt miscarried at 12 weeks.
‘Nothing was coming up on my test results, explaining why I could get pregnant but couldn’t seem to hold on to the babies,’ she said.
The couple were once again given hope when they discovered Amy was pregnant shortly before Christmas 2015. But Mrs Everatt miscarried at 12 weeks. Pictured, Amy in hospital
‘We saw a specialist at the recurrent miscarriage unit and were told if we did want to try again, we would need to take medication as soon as I fell pregnant.’
So when they found out they were expecting in March 2017, Amy and Oliver made sure to seek additional medical support, and decided to keep the news to themselves.
Amy said: ‘We kept quiet to protect ourselves, because we had already lost three children and we couldn’t face telling people we had lost another one.
‘We didn’t want people feeling sorry for us, looking at my bump thinking I would probably lose it. So, we decided if someone asked, then we wouldn’t lie, but we wouldn’t actively tell people.’
When they found out they were expecting in March 2017, Amy and Oliver made sure to seek additional medical support, and decided to keep the news to themselves. Pictured, Amy while pregnant with their ‘little miracle Elfine’ last year
Amy addressed the difficult emotions she was experiencing while pregnant with Elfine with this powerful photo shoot. Their daughter was born on 25 October last year
Amy added: ‘Some people could obviously tell I was pregnant, but they would just offer to take my bags, for example, and respect we were keeping it private.’
Amy was given blood-thinners, steroids and aspirin in a bid to support the pregnancy.
At 35 weeks, given Amy’s history of miscarriages, doctors took the decision to deliver Elfine and she was born at Stevenage’s Lister Hospital on 25 October 2017.
It was then the couple finally felt they could share the news.
At 35 weeks, given Amy’s history of miscarriages, doctors took the decision to deliver Elfine. Pictured, proud big sister Lilia, now seven, kisses her beautiful baby sister on the head
The couple said Elfine, pictured as a newborn, is ‘the most beautiful and happy little girl
Now almost one year old, Elfine is much loved as a ‘little miracle’.
‘It was only a few days ago, looking at a school photo Lilia had done, where we took Elfine in for the sibling shot, that it really hit home that Lilia had a sister and that Elfine had made it,’ she said.
‘She is the most beautiful and happy little girl. Lilia is so happy to have a sibling and we feel so lucky too. We call Elfine our little miracle.’
Amy also founded Help Us Grieve (HUG), an app and website to support grieving parents. For more information visit: www.helpusgrieve.co.uk
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