I can't stop watching porn, using prostitutes and I even had sex with my girlfriend's mum – am I a sex addict?

We got away with it but it was such a stupid thing to do that I wonder if I am a sex addict.

My girlfriend is beautiful and I love her very much. We have a great sex life and yet I have cheated on her, used prostitutes and I’m addicted to porn.

I am 24 and my girlfriend is 22. The fling with her mum happened earlier this year. She’s 43. I went over to hers for a long weekend to help her clear up the garden. My girlfriend was away on a hen weekend.

After putting in a hard day we started working our way through a bottle of vodka. We watched a film which had naughty bits and it got us in the mood. We ended up having sex.

We both enjoyed it and we met a few more times behind my girlfriend’s back. Eventually we realised what a mess we were creating and put a stop to it.

But I’ve paid for sex a few times since then. I’m always looking at porn online and I have an ambition to travel the world and have sex with a woman in every country I visit. Now I realise I’ve inherited a sex addict gene.

My dad had left his laptop open last weekend when I was round his. I could not resist checking it and saw a huge number of messages he’d had from women all over the UK.My mum and dad split up when I was 12. He brought up me and my younger brother.

Dad found himself a new girlfriend a couple of years ago and it seemed as though his life was complete again. But now I have seen what he is writing to these other women, I know he is an awful person. I keep wondering if Dad and I are one and the same, that my perverted side comes from him.

Maybe that means I am destined to hurt the girl I love, just as I imagine my dad hurt my mum when they were together and now he is cheating on his girlfriend.  I don’t like myself and yet I feel I am powerless to change the person I am.


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WE can fall in love so hard we’re blind to reason, even when it’s damaging us.

Obsessive love usually follows low self-esteem from childhood.

My leaflet on love addiction might help.

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DEIDRE SAYS: You were maybe conditioned to mistrust commitment as a result of your parents’ disrupted relationship and losing your mum out of your day-to-day life, but that does not make you powerless.

You make your own choices, your own decisions, you control your own behaviour.
Blaming your genes is a cop out.

If you really love your girlfriend then you need to concentrate on making your relationship special.

If you can’t do that, do your girlfriend a favour, tell her the relationship is not working for you.

Either way, my e-leaflet Can’t Be Faithful? can help you start taking charge of your life.


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