We have been married for 37 years. We still love each other but our sex life has dwindled. The lack of sex doesn’t worry me but my husband is very unhappy about it.
I am 59, he is 60. Our two daughters are in their thirties. When they left home, my husband said he hoped it would give our sex life a boost.
He likes planning sex and looking forward to it. He’d like me to sit all evening in a basque and suspenders, sipping wine. But I feel embarrassed at the thought of it.
DEIDRE SAYS: Men will readily respond to visual prompts while women are more usually turned on by thoughtful treatment and sexual touching.
Make an effort, because this is driving you apart, but tell him the best foreplay is to cook dinner then give you a sensuous massage. My e-leaflet on Couples Massage can get him started.
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