I’m 26 and my friend is 25. We worked together in a clothes shop for two years until I moved into recruitment.
Her boyfriend is 28 and they have a very rocky relationship. She is highly promiscuous and has repeatedly gone with guys I’ve been with.
She has a child with her boyfriend but they still cheat on each other and she’s even had sex with his best mate. She says she and her boyfriend are no longer together but I know they still meet for sex.
One evening he dropped by to collect a jacket she had left at mine and I offered him a beer. We chatted for a while but when I stood up to go to the loo I tripped over his foot and landed in his lap. He went to help me up and my face ended up very close to his.
He kissed me and I couldn’t resist. I don’t agree with cheating but he was a great kisser.
We started feeling each other’s bodies through our clothes then went to bed. We had sex numerous times that evening. It was unbelievable. I now know why my mate finds him so irresistible.
The next time I saw him was for a drink one night with the two of them. She caused a row and stormed off leaving us alone.
We went back to my place and had sex again. We’ve managed to do it on four occasions now.
Later, my friend told me she had ended up having sex that night with some random guy so I wasn’t feeling too bad about it.
But last night she called to say she’s pregnant with her ex’s baby. I felt sick to my stomach. I don’t want to hurt her or question her but how can she be sure it’s his?
Should I tell her what we’ve been up to or keep quiet?
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DEIDRE SAYS: Maybe she can’t be certain but this isn’t your mess to sort out. They already have one child to consider and you’d best leave them to work out between them how they handle this pregnancy.
Resolve never to tell her that you and her boyfriend had sex, and tell him he must keep the secret too.
You’ll lose her as a friend if you do but you can be clear that, as soon as she was pregnant, you did the right thing to allow them to sort out their future. I hope they do.
Meanwhile be the supportive, non-judgmental friend she needs. Don’t let your feelings lead you to pressure or criticise her. My e-leaflet Unplanned Pregnancy may help her.
Enjoy some single time but learn from this and ensure the next person you hook up with isn’t already in a relationship.
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