My boyfriend sent me a photo of him and his son in the bath taken by his ex

DEAR DEIDRE: MY boyfriend sent me a gorgeous photo of him and his son in the bath together recently.

The problem was the person who took the pic was his ex.

We have been together for a year and a half and I’m completely smitten with him and he says he is with me too.

But isn’t it weird that she is coming into the bathroom when he is naked? I am worried she is trying to get back together with him.

He assures me they maintain a good relationship purely for the sake of their three-year-old son but I have bad dreams they are having an affair and playing happy families behind my back.

He sometimes stays over in her spare bed and keeps a lot of his belongings there too.

They are in contact every single day — admittedly about their son — but it makes me question why he is with me as they are still so close.

I am 31 and met my boyfriend, who is 33, through work. He was in the process of separating from his wife when we met.

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We kept our relationship private for a few months to avoid hurting his wife’s feelings.

Once she found out she said she was happy he had moved on but I’m worried she is secretly jealous.

My boyfriend is a really hands-on dad and lives quite close to his ex, so he can see his son every day.

We were on the cusp of moving in together, but when this latest lockdown was announced we decided to put it on hold.

We only see each other once or twice a week now when we go for a walk together, but we talk every day.

When we are together my boyfriend is really loving. And we’ve been talking about having a future together.

Am I being ridiculous about this and if so, how do I get over these jealous feelings?

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DEIDRE SAYS: It is great that your boyfriend is such a hands-on parent – this certainly bodes well for any future children you might have.

There are practical reasons why he stays with his ex, but you need to agree boundaries so you feel more secure.

Explain calmly that it isn’t appropriate for his ex to enter the bathroom when he’s naked and address any other red lines.

He needs to listen to your concerns.

If he won’t consider your feelings you need to decide whether you can stay in a relationship that makes you feel so insecure.

Have a read of my support pack Looking After Your Relationship for greater understanding.

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