Something is stopping me from falling in love and being monogamous.
I am just “swiping right”, dating lots and having sex with a different woman every month – then feeling totally miserable afterwards.
I am 37 and the divorce was very bitter. But recently my relationship with my ex has thawed and she has become quite friendly.
Now I often wonder and fantasise about being with her again, though I don’t find her sexually attractive.
I am probably in love with the idea of her being someone she isn’t, which means I can’t move on.
Am I still in love with my ex-wife, warts and all, or am I just addicted to short-term meaningless sex?
DEIDRE SAYS: You are wary of commitment since your divorce. That is natural but sex without a real and caring relationship rarely makes anyone really happy.
Focus on all the reasons you are not with her – she is your ex for a reason.
My e-leaflet Moving On will help you.
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