I pretend my wife is my colleague from work whenever we have sex – is that bad?

DEAR DEIDRE: I KEEP getting sexual fantasies about my co-workers but I hardly know them.

I’m a man of 35 and these women are 41 and 46. They’re lovely, both married and a lot of fun.

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I joined the company a month ago. We work together on a production line in a factory, so there’s a lot of banter between us.

They’ve told me that they both do burlesque dancing every week. When they tell me what they do, it’s enough to make a man blush.

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I’m married and my wife is 37. We have a great relationship but I am now having sexual fantasies about these two colleagues during sex with my wife.

I haven’t told them how I feel but I’m not sure what to do.

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DEIDRE SAYS: Do nothing. You have a happy marriage and you enjoy a good sex life.

That doesn’t mean that you never fancy other people – but that is where it stops.

Don’t cross a boundary as it will get you into all sorts of bother and it would be a shame to jeopardise your marriage or your job.

Enjoy the friendship you have with these ladies – they sound like great fun.

My support pack Sexual Fantasies And You may give you some reassurance.

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