I booked an abortion while angry at my cheating boyfriend but now I feel guilty

DEAR DEIDRE: THE excitement of finding out I am finally pregnant has changed to anger after I found out my boyfriend has cheated on me.

I’m 27 and he is 29. We’ve been together for four years. We’ve been trying for a baby for almost a year and now I’m ten weeks pregnant.

My boyfriend had sex with a girl he met at a party. I discovered messages on his phone from her saying how good the sex was.

My instant reaction was to book a termination because I can’t be in the relationship any longer and I couldn’t deal with having a baby on my own. But as the appointment is drawing closer I’m feeling guilty. I wonder whether I should go it alone as a single parent but would it hinder my future and finding someone else to spend my life with?

DEIDRE SAYS: Yes, he cheated on you but does he want to try to get past this? And does he want to be a dad?

If so, at least think about trying again. Most people deserve a second chance.

Of course you can’t let too much time tick by but he can still be an involved and caring dad whether you two are together or apart. He’d have a legal duty to provide financially for his child. My e-leaflet Unplanned Pregnancy explains your options.


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