There are a few reasons men might choose to have vasectomies – and, in some cases, they’re reversable.
One woman says she’s in a relationship with a man who has had one but now "can’t accept" the reason why he did it and feels "resentful".
She explained on Mumsnet that her partner has two children from a previous relationship – but they have been together three years and want to have kids.
"Before my partner and I started our relationship, he told me he had previously had a vasectomy but would be able to get it reversed," she said.
"Naively in lust at the time, I began the relationship, fell in love with him, and fell in love with his kids.
She added that he had his vasectomy reversal a year ago but it didn’t work – so the only option to conceive biological kids is to have "expensive" IVF and ICSI treatments.
"My problem is, I had (naively) not imagined us being in this predicament.
"I’m not sure i can get over the fact that I might never have a baby because he previously had himself sterilised so that he could have unprotected sex with his ex wife.
"I could deal with infertility if it was due to natural causes.
"But I really can’t accept the fact that I might never have a baby for this reason
"I know I’ve been stupid by getting myself into this situation.
"I also feel like i am now resenting him and i am snapping at him because I feel so angry, which really isn’t fair on him… I just feel so lost and devastated."
The devastated woman received dozens of replies from Mumsnet users with advice on her situation.
Some suggested couple’s counselling or looking at alternative options like sperm donors or adoption.
Others thought that she needs to consider walking away if the treatments don’t work.
One wrote: "If you can’t get past this, then you may need to leave the relationship, because as you rightly say it’s not fair on him."
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Another person slammed the woman for her "selfishness", pointing out that it’s not her partner’s fault as he couldn’t have predicted this situation.
Someone else said: "Why does this reason annoy you? Clearly when he got married and had children with his ex he thought that was it for him?"
Others sympathised with her situation, as someone wrote: "It sounds very hard for you."
Another pointed out: "Its understandable that you find the situation unfair but it’s nobody’s fault".
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