What is a feeder relationship and how does fat fetishism work? | The Sun

FAT fetishism is a sexual attraction in which individuals eroticize weight gain and feeding.

We take a closer look at this relationship which can be exploitative and what it involves.

What is a feeder relationship?

Feeder relationships fall under the fat fetishism category but are unique in one specific regard.

For feeders, it’s not just a meaty or plus-size body that they find sexually appealing — it’s the journey to obesity that really gets them going.

Gainers or “feedees” are the people putting on the weight, and often they do so with the aid of an encourager or feeder.

For the most part, the goal for both people in the relationship is for the feedee to achieve a big, round belly – also known as a “ball belly”.

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However, the goal is also to not put on too much weight elsewhere on the gainer’s body.

Feederism is seen as a variety of fat fetishism, where the sexual gratification is obtained not from just the fat itself per se, but from the process of helping someone gain weight.

These are people who are into more than just the end result: They want to help others arrive there.

This was documented in a 2011 article in Archives of Sexual Behavior, according to Scientific American.

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It documented cases of sexual pleasure being associated with eating, gaining weight or being fed.

The article also documented cases where people displayed signs of both 'feeder' and 'feedee'.

Most feedees are female, whilst the feeders tend to be FA males,

What is fat fetishism?

Fat fetishism is a type of physical attraction, usually sexual, towards someone who is overweight or obese, both in weight and size.

The relationships of people into fat fetishism are often portrayed as a thin man and a larger woman – but there are many cases of it being the other way around.

There are a variety of fat fetishism out there.

"Squashing" is having a sexual attraction to the idea of being crushed by a fat person or people.

According to a survey by Bedbible, one in 14 men have a fat fetish, while one in a 100 women have it.

However, it’s important to understand that the fat fetish community is not necessarily about promoting obesity, but rather about celebrating people of all sizes and body types.

One common thread that runs through the community is a belief in promoting body positivity and acceptance for people of all sizes.

What is the feeder after?

Feeders are obviously interested in seeing their partner gain weight and balloon into the size they want.

People are often feeders because it is how they express love or concern, or because feeding people is seen as being polite.

Couples also tend to agree on feeding people a lot of food to avoid wasting it, and that it is important to display that they can put on a good spread — which may be linked to obtaining a sense of power and dominance.

They also enjoy subsequently being responsible for the change in their partner’s body, the end goal often resulting in severe obesity, loss of mobility, and inability to perform even the most mundane life tasks without their partner’s assistance.

Professor Jane Ogden, co-author of the study from the University of Surrey, said: "Sometimes couples feed each other even when they aren't hungry to show how much they care.

'This may lead to overeating or weight gain but can form the basis of a loving relationship.

"For others, however, the relationship may be less equal with one person tending to impose food on the other.

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"This can be more problematic."

In conclusion, there are six motivations behind the feeder, these being:

  • Feeding being good manners
  • A way of showing love
  • A way to stop people going hungry
  • A way to avoid food waste
  • The feeders could not clear their own plate and gave food away
  • A way of showing status through offering a lot of food

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