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Always upbeat and chirpy, Bobby Norris is a dream to interview. However, this time his chat with new has a more solemn theme – as he exclusively delves into his break-up from boyfriend Matt Snape.
Although the topic is a difficult one, our Bobs remains positive and cracks jokes throughout, assuring us he’s getting through this tough time, despite attacks from trolls and the added stress of a cancer scare.
“Unfortunately, these things happen, but I completely wish him well,” the 34-year-old tells us of his split from Matt, who he’d been seeing for a year and spent the first lockdown with.
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“It’s sad because when you’ve spent every day with someone since March, you don’t just lose your partner, you lose your best friend as well.”
The TOWIE star explains their relationship came to an abrupt end after “something changed” in their dynamics.
Bobby made the decision to end it but, much to his relief, he found that Matt was also having his doubts.
Over lunch, they came to a mutual agreement to call time on their relationship.
However, their split took a more acrimonious turn when Matt joined dating app Tinder just a week later, which Bobby tells us was “devastating” to hear.
But he only has good things to say about his former beau. “I look back fondly at our year together and have got some amazing memories and wish him no harm,” he says.
Here, Bobby talks about getting over his heartbreak, his feelings for Matt now and his plans to stay positive…
Hi Bobby. How are you feeling?
It’s been a really hard few weeks. It’s been testing times. I’d been with Matt a year and thought the world of him and it just got to the point where it wasn’t working.
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We spent the first lockdown together and we got through that, which I know was testing for a lot of people.
But as life went back to normal something changed and we started to notice a difference in our relationship, but I couldn’t really work out what.
When did you notice things weren’t right?
I think it was when filming for TOWIE had begun. I was getting up for filming six days a week, doing my radio show and working with you guys at new, so I was grateful to be busy. Matt wasn’t [busy]. I was hardly ever there and when I wasn’t working, I was at the gym training.
Maybe that was when I started to notice it, but I tried my hardest to make it work and really wanted it to. What I find sad is people trolling me over it.
Do you not think I feel sad my relationship has broken down? I get that people are upset, but as upset as they are, I am more so!
We can’t imagine why people would want to troll you over it!
People are upset that they think I’ve made him give up his life and made him move to Essex [from Reading]. People said, “You used him for company in lockdown.” But no, I was with him a long time before we even knew what Covid was.
Then you get people saying, “Your cancer scare is karma.” It’s bizarre that anyone would have that mindset. People need to be kinder.
You mentioned you couldn’t pinpoint what changed in your relationship. Were there any arguments?
Me and Matt have never had a relationship which was an aggy one. We never rowed, but the dynamic started to change.
I used to sit there and try to work out what had happened, but I couldn’t put my finger on what it was. I longed to make it work because, even now, there’s still love there. I love him but, as cliché as it is, sometimes love isn’t enough.
Things ended amicably, but how did Matt take it?
When I sat him down over lunch and said, “Something’s changed here Matt and I don’t know what has,” he agreed. That made it slightly easier because, for the first time in a while, we were on the same page.
When I left and he drove home, I texted and said, “I want you to meet the man of your dreams – I want you to be happy. I’ve never stopped loving you.” I wanted it to remain civil and as friendly as you can be with an ex.
When you saw that Matt had joined Tinder, how did that make you feel?
I was completely devastated. It had been a week [since the split] and I was very much trying to process in my head that we weren’t together – I was grieving our relationship.
But ultimately he’s single and if he feels ready to start dating again, that’s his prerogative. It’s sad when you think of your ex moving on and meeting someone, especially when you’re coming to terms with a break-up yourself.
Would you be open to dating at all now?
I don’t think my head’s there to start dating yet. Plus, there’s lockdown. Maybe I’ll have to cook a carbonara and have a glass of wine over Zoom!
When something feels right, you go with it and I don’t think there’s ever a timeframe on something. I’m still at that healing stage.
Have you given up on love?
I’ll never give up because I know I want to settle down and get married. I want a family. I believe I will.
You’ve been through a tough time and also found a testicular lump a few weeks ago. That must have been particularly stressful…
Oh my God, yes. There’s never a good time to find a lump, but going through a break-up and a pandemic at the same time, it was all very intense and surreal.
I was so scared about it because early diagnosis with something sinister is key. When I went to the doctor, he said, “I want you to go to the hospital and have an ultrasound.”
Then I had the call from the receptionist saying that the local hospital isn’t doing ultrasounds because of the pandemic.
It was terrifying. I was lucky enough to be able to pay to get one done [privately] and it was something I wanted for my own peace of mind. Thankfully, it was nothing sinister.
Well done for raising awareness for this…
I’m passionate about using social media to talk about things I’m going through.
When I found that lump, I thought, “Is it something I should talk about?” But then I think if it helps one person get the confidence to get checked, why would you not do it? To me it’s a no-brainer.
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