Many people would say there are simply no words to describe the grief of losing a loved one.
No possible way to formulate the pain you feel into sentences.
Others may be able to turn their tragic thoughts into beautiful notes, poems, songs and even letters.
This is exactly what one mum was brave enough to do.
Parenting blogger, Phoebe Shields, from Brisbane, Australia has penned a heartbreaking letter to the baby she lost to miscarriage.
What’s more, she’s shared this emotional post with the world, on her blog P.S. It’s A Mum Thing .
Phoebe suffered a miscarriage several years ago before later falling pregnant with her son. This caused her to experience PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder).
The mother-of-one’s letter is addressed to her "darling".
It reads: "We never did get to meet properly did we? And yet, we were together for every moment of your life.
"You slipped away from me, quickly and quietly, without making an impression on the world. No one even knew you were there, except your daddy and I. But you should know that you were loved. I like to think that you know that already."
Phoebe goes on to explain how people have told her that she wasn’t pregnant long enough for the baby to make an "impression" on her life, but she disagrees.
"Even in such a short space of time, I made space for you in my heart," she wrote.
"But now that space is empty."
She continues to explain how she spent years trying to fill the hole left behind by the baby, thinking that the birth of her son would help her heal.
It did not.
"Sometimes, when it is quiet and the house is still, that empty space in my heart echoes so loudly that it can’t be ignored .The hollow grief washes over me once more and I am stunned with the intensity of its power.
"I have found that it is better not to fight these moments. Instead, I sit quietly and think of you and what might have been. Sometimes I even read the storybook that I bought when I was pregnant with you. I have accepted that it is ok to still feel sad about what we lost.
"It seems that no matter what happens, or how much time passes, I cannot fill that void that you left."
Phoebe ends the letter by revealing that she has decided to stop trying to fill the "empty space".
"I will leave that space in my heart exactly where it is. I will stop trying to fill it with other things or pretending it isn’t there," she says.
"It is your space and I am going to leave it just for you. I will carry you there always, in that space, in my heart."
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Greg Hughes, better known as Dad Minus One, shared an open letter he wrote to his past self on the topic of learning to live with the loss of a child.
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The letter tries to prepare his past self for what’s to come, going into details of his grief and offering advice on how to act.
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