‘I’m guilty of saying I wasn’t ready for kids’: Pregnant Ashley James reflects on the ‘negativity’ around motherhood as she counts down to her due date
Ashley James has reflected on the ‘negativity’ around motherhood as she counts down the final weeks of the pregnancy.
Penning a lengthy Instagram post, the star, 33, who is 36 weeks pregnant, admitted she still wants to ‘be a success’ when she gives birth to her first child, as she hit back at the idea that being a mum is ‘like a prison sentence.’
Ashley shared the post alongside another snap of her blossoming bump as she prepares to welcome a baby boy with boyfriend Tom Andrews in the coming months.
Not long to go now: Ashley James has reflected on the ‘negativity’ around motherhood as she counts down the final weeks of the pregnancy
Ashley looked radiant in pale pink lingerie as she cradled her bump in the snaps, admitting she’s starting to become ‘exhausted by the simplest tasks’ as she prepares to give birth.
She began: ‘Good morning! Gosh the last stages of pregnancy are so weird! It’s like you’re playing some kind of weird waiting game.
‘I feel this weird pressure to get loads done before the baby comes, but also my body is like NOT TODAY LOVE, and I get exhausted from the simplest of tasks.’
Bumping along: The star who is 36 weeks pregnant, admitted she still wants to ‘be a success’ when she gives birth to her baby boy, but said she’s struggling with nerves around motherhood
Confessing she’s already struggling with nerves about the prospect of giving birth and caring for a newborn, she continued: ‘ I’m trying really hard to embrace every last moment of pregnancy and my bump.
‘But at every moment I’m like… MAYBE IT’S HAPPENING NOW. I’m excited but then get these moments of nerves at what’s awaiting me.
‘Like, childbirth… Getting to grips with a baby. Wondering what he’ll be like! Good nerves, but nerves nonetheless.’
The star then told fans that she strongly opposed the stereotype that giving birth could see the end of her freedom, insisting shes determined to still be successful while caring for her son.
‘I’ve been thinking a lot about the negativity that seems to exist around becoming a mum, and I wonder why it does,’ she said.
‘Like, I’m guilty of saying even a year ago how I wasn’t ready for kids because ”I wasn’t ready to give my life up”.
‘And then lots have people have told me, in the most well meaning way I’m sure, to ‘enjoy my last few weeks of freedom’ as if I’m about to enter into a prison sentence.
Important: Ashley reflected on the idea that becoming a mum means ‘the end of her freedom’ and said she’d still ‘keep other things in her life’
‘Why is there this weird and probably old fashioned sentiment that we give up our lives after childbirth? I know tons of mums (and dads) who’ve not lost their identities, still pursue hobbies and interests, and still go on to achieve awesome things.
‘Like remember when Cardi B announced she was pregnant and there was so much talk that she’d ruined her career at the moment of success and she had to clap back and be like… I’m still going to be a success. This year’s she’s proved that.’
I feel like we need to leave this whole ”giving up our lives” narrative in the past. I mean, I’m guilty of it too… It’s what I was most afraid of when I found out I was pregnant.
‘But actually the best parents are the happiest ones, I think it’s so important to keep other things in our lives.
‘Now I’m like, yes life will change, priorities will change, but I can’t wait to bring this baby into my life as the adventures and career successes continue.
Coming soon: She is due to welcome her first child with boyfriend Tom Andrews in less than a month’s time
‘I’m going to have to get him some of those baby headphones so he can come to watch me DJ at festivals. Here’s to babies enhancing our lives, not ruining them.’
It comes after candidly revealed on her Instagram stories that she thought she was going into labour on Wednesday night – but it was a false alarm.
The reality star described it as feeling like someone was ‘punching my vagina from the inside’ and was convinced that she was about to give birth to her baby boy.
She jokingly explained that she decided to go to bed very early as she thought ‘if I am going to give birth I want to be well rested’.
An exhausted Ashley appeared on camera in just a nude maternity bra and underwear as she assured fans that it was a false alarm and that she is still waiting for her baby boy.
The mother-to-be opted to go make-up free for the candid video, which saw her taking a minute to relax and let her damp golden tresses dry off after showering.
Glowing: Earlier this week, Ashley glowed as she posed in black lingerie and she spoke candidly about her stretch marks
Ashley told her 279,000 Instagram followers: ‘Morning guys, oh my gosh I am so tired today. I like got up, got ready, tried to do some work and now I am just lying in the baby’s room.
‘I actually thought I might be going into labour last night. I could like feel – it almost felt like someone punching my vagina from like inside.
That sounds really weird, so I was like ‘is this it?’. So I went to bed really early cos I was like ‘oh my god, if I am going to give birth I want to be well rested’.
‘Um but it wasn’t, false alarm. But I am exactly a month away now, so I am definitely starting to feel it.’
Candid: On Wednesday she candidly revealed on her Instagram stories that she thought she was going into labour – but it was a false alarm
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