DEAR DEIDRE: MY partner’s gambling addiction left us in thousands of pounds of debt and is ruining our life together.
He’s admitted he has a problem and started going to Gamblers Anonymous. It’s clear he wants to get better but keeps slipping back into his old ways.
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He’s 35 and I’m 29. We have a three-year-old daughter and have been together for four years.
We were supposed to be booking a summer holiday but I’ve learned he gambled away our savings.
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I’m so hurt and angry. I understand this is an illness and I do want to support him.
It’s the lying I can’t cope with. We can’t make plans for the future and I worry about how this will affect our daughter.
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DEIDRE SAYS: While it is good your partner is getting help, his addiction is also taking a big toll on you. So you need support too.
Contact Be Gamble Aware (begambleaware.org, 0808 8020 133), which also helps the family members of those with a problem.
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