I’ve put on weight since our three children were born and have gone up three dress sizes. I’m 35 and my husband is 38 and a gym freak.
He’s never made rude comments but only has sex with me when I’ve said I don’t feel he loves me any more. It’s like he thinks it’s an obligation.
He’s confessed to watching porn and I know the women on there are all slim.
He will sometimes say, “You’re not fat”, but I don’t believe he really feels that.
He’s enthusiastic when I say I’ll diet – but I find it difficult to know where to start.
DEIDRE SAYS: Do not compare yourself with women who have sex on camera for a living.
They’re chosen because of their physiques but on-screen sex isn’t real life.
Point that out to your husband and warn him about getting hooked.
Losing weight may well help you feel healthier and fitter but you’ll need his practical support, not just verbal enthusiasm.
Ask him to sort out the children while you get to the gym after tea. Aim to boost your metabolism with exercise and eat natural foods rather than a restrictive “diet”.
My e-leaflets End Weight Worries and Sex Problems After A Baby will help.
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