This week in Proof That Men Are Fragile and Easily Shook, author and activist Feminista Jones showed just how easy it is to absolutely wreck a dude who’s catcalling you or being otherwise creepily complimentary. In a tweet that’s since gone viral, Jones gave some extremely simple instructions for pissing a man off:
Jones herself can attest that this WORKS:
Too easy, right? Nothing this simple could actually work to get a man thorough miffed, except, oh shit, WAIT A MINUTE —
The tweet likely went viral because 1. this “trick” (if you can call politely and confidently responding to a compliment a “trick”) works, and 2. women who’ve already done this have found it to be incredibly true. Something about responding to a hey girl nice body, from a skeevy dude with thanks I know really irks said skeevy dude.
Shall we entertain some possible theories as to why? The defensive and angry reactions from men who feel cool catcalling women PROBABLY have something to do with the fact that these same men are terrified by women who are brave enough to be self-confident. Here’s a visual aid if you need more help understanding what I mean by this:
For a man to be comfortable sending an unsolicited comment about your body via text or Tinder or Bumble or whatever, or to feel comfortable yelling some shit at you on the sidewalk, he has to feel — at least in some small way — like you exist for him. If you take those compliments in stride instead of blushing and cooing and being the Good Modest Woman he hopes your mother raised you to be, you’re proving you don’t exist for him at all. Your “great body” belongs to you, and of course that’s gonna piss this exact type of dude off.
By all means, please employ this technique in your daily life. Not only does it help you reclaim the compliments that are meant to make you feel ogled and small, but it sends men into a mental tailspin. A win-win, if you ask me.
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